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There's FOMO: Fear Of Missing Out.

I'm looking for a similar concept but for the past tense. Some concept/expression/acronym that describes the feeling of distress over having missed out on something.

For example, on the day after a party you decided not to go to, you might realize that the party was amazing.

"Oh, just found out on Twitter how good the party was. Now I'm feeling <concept>."

Another example is if you discover that your friends went to a party you were not invited to.

(So "regret" is not the right word here, since it doesn't apply to the previous example.)

Has something like this already been coined?

After some research I found the following:

FOHMO (Fear Of Having Missed Out) - It doesn't really describe what I'm looking for since in my case, you don't fear that you missed out, you know you missed out.

KIMO (Knowing I Missed Out) - Closer, but doesn't express the feeling of distress I'm looking for.

Chappo Hasn't Forgotten
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    Anxiety usually means fear of unpleasant possibilities, not past actualities. You'd feel disappointment here. – Edwin Ashworth Jul 27 '20 at 18:10
  • Good point. Replaced it with "distress" ("disappointment" is not quite what I have in mind, but thanks for the suggestion!) – LLCampos Jul 27 '20 at 18:30
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    That’s called *regret* – Jim Jul 27 '20 at 18:37
  • Informally (BrE), "Now I'm feeling gutted." – Weather Vane Jul 27 '20 at 18:45
  • "Now I'm feeling regret at having missed out on such a wonderful time." – srikavineehari Jul 27 '20 at 20:02
  • I added a new example and a clarification on why "regret" is not what I'm looking for. ;)

    @EdwinAshworth, maybe, good pointer. At first glance the concept I'm talking about is different, but I'll have a better look.

     – LLCampos Jul 27 '20 at 21:21
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    What wrong with saying I had* FOMO? Why does the past tense have to be embedded into the acronym. The word fear* does not necessarily mean terror or trepidation. If I say I fear you're wrong, I'm not actually scared of you being wrong … – Jason Bassford Jul 27 '20 at 22:34
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    I also don't understand the explanation about regret being wrong. It certainly seems to apply to the example you don't think it does: A friend went to a party you didn't, and you regret not having gone yourself. – Jason Bassford Jul 27 '20 at 22:36
  • Your second example is feeling either *betrayed* or *spurned* depending on whether you’re feeling hurt because the host didn’t invite you or because your friends chose the part over their solidarity with you. But those are completely different feelings than *regret*. When I was in college Stevie Ray Vaughan played a concert on campus but I chose not to go because I had to study. I really regret that choice now. – Jim Jul 28 '20 at 04:52

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FOMO is a commonly used term in trading and investing. It is seen as a negative trait in a trader when they buy solely because of the fear of missing out when stocks are heading skywards.

I coined the acronym DAHMO for the feeling i get when i do a lot of research and arrive at the conclusion that a particular asset is worth backing only to get to the end of that process and then realise the price has already shot up and I have missed the ideal time to get into the trade. DAHMO = Disappointment at having missed out. And I think it exactly fits what you are looking for. :-)

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    Sadly, such inventions are out of place on ELU, which looks at standard (commonly recognised, accepted and used) usages. All StackExchange sites, in fact, require answers that are verifiable by peer review. – Edwin Ashworth Nov 09 '20 at 15:42