Reality is here defined as "truth."
An example is, if someone killed someone else, then the truth is that person 2 is dead. Here, no one need to know that that person is dead in order for them to be dead. For example, if someone dies on the other side of the earth (it is not reported, and you do not know the person) then they are still dead, regardless of if you know it.
Also, reality does not need anything to exist, because if you blew up the universe the reality would be that there is no universe. Lastly, even if you time traveled, then the event still happened in the original timeline. Nothing can be done to change that. Is my thinking correct or flawed?